Often in the pursuit of doing something great, we are unable to do anything. We keep on finding faults in what others have done and keep on achieving one success after another, regardless of everything else. We remain stuck in the pursuit of perfection, and others move forward doing half-assed work.
Every person dreams of success in his life and workplace. But, not everyone’s dreams come true. If you do not get success even after hard work, it is natural to feel disappointed. The deep fog of despair weakens a person’s morale and confidence. He suffers from inferiority complex. To overcome such a situation, Jenkaul said – remember – ‘The coming day will be more joyful than today. If night comes after day, then after night the bright morning will also definitely come. Prepare to utilize it to its fullest extent. It means- never let the wall of hope and faith crack. This optimistic outlook is the first step to success. It is a powerful component of personality. In times of despair and uncertainty, we start running away from all those things which cause discomfort to us. We start spending time in such activities which are not better options for us. Instead of moving in the right direction by living our restlessness patiently, we start running towards easy paths. It is said that instead of taking decisions out of fear, it is better to wait for the right path.
In the journey of life a person goes through many sweet and sour experiences. Sometimes he slips, falls, makes mistakes, but every mistake warns him, every stumble teaches him a lesson to walk right, every failure opens the door to success. In this way, he learns the lesson from every incident and along with maturity, he also becomes prone to experience. Taking inspiration from those experiences, they keep moving forward, they develop an independent identity of their personality and become a source of inspiration for others too. Author and professor Maury Schwartz has written in his book ‘Tuesdays with Maury’, ‘I see hundreds of people around me every day. There are many among them, who are successful, busy, but look so tired as if they are half dead. I believe that they are not walking on the path they should walk on. The right path is the one which makes you optimistic, gives you satisfaction, gives you a reason to smile. For all this, instead of becoming successful, rich or powerful, you need to become sensitive and compassionate.
Sensitivity means the ability to understand and understand the difficulties of others. Continuous competitive race towards physical/economic development, industrial development, increasing influence of mobile culture, increasing dominance of social media – due to all these reasons today’s man is becoming more self-centered. The sources of compassion and sensitivity are drying up. The geographical boundaries of the world are shrinking, distances are disappearing but barriers are being created between humans. Lack of communication is increasing. Sensitivity is waning. The human psyche is becoming a desert. In such a situation, only emotional relationships can grow the greenery of affection and harmony in the land of relationships.
American author and motivational speaker Brianna Wiest is known for her work on emotional intelligence. According to him, when our personal philosophy is to do whatever we are told without asking any questions, it means that we are becoming victims of consumerism or our ego or blind faith in someone or something. We are feeding the desires of someone who wants to control us. Whereas for a successful and meaningful life we will have to walk on the ground of self-experience and experimentation. People who acquire wealth through self-experience and employ it in the larger interest of the society are easily considered respected and successful everywhere.
Often in the pursuit of doing something great, we are unable to do anything. We keep on finding faults in what others have done and keep on achieving one success after another, regardless of everything else. We remain stuck in the pursuit of perfection, and others move forward doing half-assed work. Osho says, ‘Life is not made of great things, but of small things. Why condemn imperfection?’ It is important for us to be positive towards life. If you have a positive outlook then the view also looks different. What appears to be a penny to one may appear to be a pearl to another. If one faces trouble, it becomes a golden opportunity for the other. It is not at all necessary that something which is of no use to you will also be of no use to others. It is said that in the acacia tree you see thorns and the camel sees its food. There is a need to adopt an optimistic attitude towards life. Repairing your mind is actually repairing your destiny. Over time, it is important to keep wiring the right wires in place of the tangle of negative emotions that form within you. It requires both time and patience. You have to work on yourself by planning. And everyone does this.
Everyone has some sore spot. And then the past is not just about the past. They are influencing our lives even today. So trying to look at our present in the right way also heals our inner self. Don’t run away from your bitter memories, change the way you look at them. Take lessons from them and move forward. Don’t rush, just keep taking steps slowly. Then who is a bigger healer than love? If there is love within, it will be easy to forgive. Love others and yourself too.
(The author is a senior journalist and columnist)